Posts tagged grief
Spiritual PTSD
Spiritual PTSD

inter Gwen and I were privileged to share some extended time with a group of pastors and wives.  While we were one of my fellow pastors gave a devotional that I found to be insightful, and I've been thinking about it ever since.

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Skills, Heart, RelationshipsDave DeSelmEveryday Pastor, pastors, leader, leadership, church leaders, leadership development, Leadership, experiences, PTSD, abandonment, loss, grief, opposition, encouragement, pain of pastoring, spiritual traumaComment
Why People Resist Change
Why People Resist Change

In my years of pastoring, I had to lead my organization through a lot of change - from major paradigm shifts to small operational adjustments. In that process, I’ve discovered a couple of key truths regarding change.

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Skills, RelationshipsDave DeSelmEveryday Pastor, pastors, leader, leadership, church leaders, positivity, change, leading change, leading through change, resistance, resisting change, organizational change, culture change, loss, sense of loss, grief, anger, anxiety, confusion, loss of power, loss of comfort, loss of control, loss of familiarity, loss of stability, validate, validationComment
Defining Reality and Giving Hope
Defining Reality and Giving Hope

The great general Napoleon Bonaparte is credited with saying: “The role of the leader is to define reality and give hope.” While true at all times, this is especially true during times of severe crisis – such as the one we’re currently facing.  This is when leaders need to balance realism with optimism.

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Skills, Relationships, HeartDave DeSelmEveryday Pastor, pastors, leader, leaders, leadership, church, Coronavirus, COVID-19, crisis, crisis leadership, Napoleon, Napolean Bonaparte, Eric Garner, hope, realism, lament, balance, reality, grief, validation, validate, emotions, Psalm 6:6, Proverbs 13:12, heart, Psalm 13:1-2, King David, David, Habakkuk, JeremiahComment
Ministering to Families of Suicide
Ministering to Families of Suicide

Suicide is a tragedy that is increasingly common in our day. It is the 10th leading cause of death in the U.S. for all ages and the 2nd leading cause of death in the world for those aged 15-24 years. There is one death by suicide every ten minutes. It takes the lives of nearly 45,000 every year. The loss of those lives is incalculable.

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Skills, RelationshipsDave DeSelmEveryday Pastor, pastors, Pastor, church, suicide, comfort, support, grief, care, suicide families, grieving families, grievingComment